Sharing Your Growth with Confidence and Grace — November Edition (Rekindle Press)

A November note from me Every day is a day to celebrate and give thanks. November is especially meaningful—I came to the United States over 35 years ago. Last week my wife and I ate at a Thai restaurant, and our server shared how much he loves our town. I told him I feel the same. America offers so much, and part of our calling is to help others see the blessings right in front of us.

I’m not the guru in the suit with the Lamborghini. I’m the man who once lost in real estate, rebuilt his credit, taught children by day, and studied affiliate marketing by night just to figure it out. If you’ve ever felt behind, underprepared, or unqualified—I get you. Because I was you. I’ve sat at the kitchen table with bills I wasn’t sure how to pay. I’ve felt the weight of starting over in midlife. I’ve wondered if I was too late. But I also know what happens when you refuse to quit—when you learn, adapt, and build again.

That’s why I share my frameworks: not theory, but lived experience. If I can reinvent myself after 30 years in one career, you can too.

What you might be feeling

🛑 Worried about how friends or family will react

🛑 Afraid of being judged or misunderstood

🛑 Unsure how to put your transformation into words Truth to stand on: You don’t need universal approval. Clear, gracious communication strengthens relationships, sets healthy expectations, and honors the work God is doing in you.

“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” — Colossians 4:6

Why Communicating Change Matters

• It sets healthy boundaries. Clarity helps people understand your new priorities.

• It invites support. Some will be more receptive than you expect.

• It builds accountability. Speaking your transformation out loud reinforces your commitment. Biblical lens — Jesus declared His mission: Jesus shared His purpose even when others resisted or misunderstood. He didn’t change His mission to please people

He stayed true to His calling. “The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because He has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor.” — Luke 4:18

5 Steps to Share Your Life Changes (with grace + steel)

1️⃣ What’s the core message I want to share? Clarify what’s changing and why it matters—spiritually and practically.

2️⃣ Who do I need to communicate with? Identify the people who need to understand—spouse, children, close friends, team, church family, clients.

3️⃣ How can I express myself with both confidence and grace? Be kind and direct. Try: “I’m making this change because God is leading me toward…”

4️⃣ How will I handle negative reactions? Decide ahead of time to respond, not react. “Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.” — Proverbs 29:25

5️⃣ What Scripture will I hold onto while I share? Choose an anchor verse to steady your heart. “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” — 2 Timothy 1:7

Script Starters (fill in and speak it out)

• “I’m choosing to (new practice) because (purpose God is forming in me). Starting (date), I’ll be (boundary/next step).”

• “I value our relationship, and I want to share a change I’m making. It may take adjustment, but it’s part of what God is growing in me.”

• “You might have questions. I’m happy to listen and explain, and this is a commitment I’m keeping.”

How to Make the Conversation Easier

• Practice your words. Draft a 3–4 sentence summary and read it out loud.

• Choose the right time and setting. Aim for calm, private, unhurried conversations.

• Accept that not everyone will understand. Obedience over approval—keep walking.

• Pray for wisdom and guidance. Ask God for the right words and steady patience. “The Lord gives wisdom; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding.” — Proverbs 2:6

A personal encouragement before you share If you’ve felt behind or unqualified, I’ve been there. The turning point wasn’t a perfect plan—it was refusing to quit. Learn, adapt, build again. Speak your change with grace and strength, and let God meet you on the road.

Your Turn (this week)

• List three people who need to hear about your change.

• Write your four-sentence message.

• Pray over each conversation—then schedule it. Want more faith-driven strategies for navigating relationships during transformation?

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   About the Author section below. About the Author Winston Cole is not a 20-year-old guru promising overnight success. I’m the 50+ educator who taught by day, studied funnels by night, and rebuilt after losing it all. If I achieved freedom in midlife, you can too